Relationships Aren’t For Tactics
They only require two questions
People tackle relationships as if they’re a one-time thing. Using shifty tactics and psychological shortcuts. Well done on your strong hand-shake. Great job on the eye contact. That smile, sure is winning. Oh, you mean to keep that up for the rest of your life? Good luck.
The problem with these pieces of advice is that they’re shallow, they’re surface level. True connection only requires two questions.
Do you care enough to notice?
Do you care enough to care?
Do you care enough to notice?
The first step is always noticing. People always dismay at having their intentions misplaced, of the misunderstanding of their partners and friends. How come they reacted differently than I expected?
People always tell on themselves. Whether through their stories and words, their actions or their appearance. The only question is, do you care enough to notice?
If a partner says ‘I don’t care about presents this year’, is that because they don’t care, or have you disappointed them so much they’ve given up on getting anything worthwhile from you?
